Monday, April 20, 2009

I'd Like A Pony Please...


Random picture of my best friend, because you all haven't seen him in a while.


What a wonderful weekend. While Saturday didn't turn out exactly sunny it was nice and warm but with a thin cloud cover that just never really burned itself off. Sunday was warm and sunny and perfect. I didn't get a lot of my own planting done but was able to go over to my Mom's and help her get her deck containers sorted and planted so that's one annual task out of the way. Before tackling that, Mom and I had brunch at the Lake Route Cafe. I had the low-cal (not) eggs benedict because clearly I'm trying for a life time personal best in weight gain this year.

Mom and I were talking at brunch about my sister and her family. Sis & BIL both got laid off from their jobs in the resort industry last winter. They worked for the same company. This same company that relocated them to Florida about 2 years ago. Poor guys are now sitting in a very large home down there they is starting to look next to impossible to sell. They're both looking for jobs back here in Seattle (sounds like BIL has found one) with an eye to moving back home. My niece has been up here for the last year because she didn't like FL and it was her senior year in high school and she wanted to be with her friends.

The conversation made me regret opening my big fat mouth a few posts back about not really feeling the effects of the economic slow down. They're having a tough time all the way around. My poor sister is sick of living in a house that she needs to keep in realtor showing cleanliness for realtors and potential buyers that never come around. The easy solution for them is to leave the house there basically furnished and move back home and get on with life. What really surprised me was that they're planing to move in with my Mom for a while. I know there's nothing new about "boomerang kids". Well, ok we're all a bit old to really fall under that category, but you know what I mean. What really threw me was that my BIL, the lone republican standout in a family awash with die-hard liberals is actually willing to live with his mother-in-law! Don't get me wrong, we all love my BIL, but if that poor guy is willing to do that, even for a short time, clearly things are worse than I thought.

I'm being somewhat silly about this but later I got to thinking about my niece. I really feel sorry for her. She's a great kid. Never been in any kind of trouble. She's very athletic, a jock really. She's been on the top soccer teams in the local leagues all through school. Just an all around great kid. What I worry about is they lifestyle she was raised in. I know for myself that my mother spoiled us quite a bit. I never realised it growing up but when it came time to live on my own it hit me between the eyes. The day's of salon haircuts and designer clothes were over for a while. My standard of living took a giant step down when I moved out of home.

I wonder if this post is ever going to make a point? Well, carrying on....

Anyway...
As I pulled away from Mom's my niece and her boyfriend pulled up in his new BMW. (high-school kid, driving a BMW...) What kind of shock are those kids in for? How are they going to be able to adjust to a new way of living. I don't think for a second their situation is unique. I know it isn't, we've got another young lad 'working' for us who was raised in a life style far above what his means will be as a lone adult. I wasn't at all shocked when the kids was 'sick' for a week after his Mommy bought him a brand new truck!

Maybe this is just the way life is. Maybe all kids and parents go through this to some degree. Is it the same as adults always thinking the music their kids listen to is garbage? generation after generation? Is it just one of those universal things or has something changed in the last couple of generations?

This is one of those posts that I should really go back and edit or possibly re-write/re-think but that's how I end up not posting for a week. I think I'll just hit publish and then go outside and play in the sun!

12 comments:

Smocha said...

I will have a comment about this later. LOL

I'm cooking :)

meno said...

We weren't all that well off when i was a kid, so the shock wasn't too great for me. But it IS going to be interesting with the next generation when they move out and on in life.

Cute puppy!

CRUSTYBEEF said...

awww, BEAR!! We had a simple life..we were raised that way..at times it was hard because I "wanted" to have the label things..
now Im glad my parents stuck to their guns.

Don't rewrite this post, it's perfect..besides, you probably had an amazing time out in the sun, right??

XO,
me

Ruth Hull Chatlien said...

Well, I guess it's like any set of values--political, religious, economic. Some kids figure out that they're going to forge their own way of dealing with the world and some continue to expect the world to conform exactly to what Mommy and Daddy told them.

I'm sorry to hear your sister's family is struggling so much. Sounds like that corporate move screwed up their lives big time. I hate the way corporate America really doesn't care about what they do to people.

Boxer said...

You know, I kinda like the free-form thoughts of yours on a sunny day in our part of the world.

And it's lovely to see a picture of your best friend, because you're right.... it's been too long.

fiwa said...

Smooches to Bear. And to you too.
I'm loving this sun - I hope it stays. It is 68 degrees in my house right now! Without the heater!

I thought it was interesting free-flow thought. I don't know what the answers are though. I sure feel sorry for your sister.

Smocha said...

Icleanedmykeyboard.canyoutell?LOLIamhavingakidcrisis...aboutthisverything!Eventhoughmykidswereraisedpoor,myyounget,expectshisstepdaddytocherishhimlikeacuddlytoddler.notagrownmanwhooweshimmoney.Iaminthemiddleanditsucksass.Ibettershutuptiligetanewkeyboard.:)Luvya'Brotha!

desert dirt diva said...

I was not raised with money or designer clothes and i turned out just fine, and since i have five kids four at home, they do not have designer duds...but its o.k. and my son will get his car next year, a 73 super beetle...he loves it and thats o.k. great post and really mase me think or re-flect shall i say...

anyways bear looks great....and the weather has been great here as well.glad to hear you got them flowers started...and i think its great you and your mom had a great day!

Tina... said...

he needed that week to play with his new truck....you get don't you? geez, you should have just given him the week off for fun. Love you.

Kathy said...

You're getting REALLY introspective, aren't you??? This is a great post -- lots of food for thought for us all and a great photo of Bear!
Your niece will go through her changes and come out on the other side a stronger person -- she has you in her life to help her along. And I think it's great that your liberal mom gets to perhaps affect some change in you uber conservative BIL! My money is on your mom!

Golden To Silver Val said...

I didn't spoil my kids and I certainly wasn't spoiled by my parents....but I've seen a big difference in the kids of today. Most of them haven't got a CLUE. My grandson is one of them. He's in for such a big surprise. Right now I'm ashamed of his laziness and am praying that its just a phase with him. I seem to remember my own son going through that at around 15 or so. Its hard to believe because he's such a hard worker now. My daughter was never lazy. The only advice I can offer any young person just starting out is to get involved in a business that is in demand and will always be in demand. Who would have ever thought that NEWSPAPERS would be going out of business? Its a very fragile world we live in now.
And NO ONE...I don't care WHO you are...should have a salary of a million dollars a year (or more). That's just insane. (putting soapbox away now) xxoo

Golden To Silver Val said...

p.s. Bear looks wonderful! And your grass is SO GREEN...ours still has that brownish dead look about it still.